De-lurking…

It’s hard to know how to begin your first ever blog post. I’ve been trolling around the many lesbian baby-making blogs for the past few months as a lurker. (I’ll post a link to the ones I read as soon as I figure out how to do that!) But, I never considered myself the “blogging type.” I mean…I’m not an over-sharer. Sometimes I’m not even much of a sharer. I used to make fun of people who actually thought random strangers over the internet would want to read about the issues and problems and events of their life.
But then two things happened. S. and I decided we were ready to become parents. That was the first step. So, as is our approach to any problem, we read several books on the topic. (Can you tell we’re both academics?) And then we attended a lesbian baby-making orientation and bought our first basal thermometer and started charting and started getting excited. This was back in November, December, and January. We decided our first try would be in June. And then S. got offered her dream job and we found out we had to move in August…thereby putting our baby plans on hold until after we relocate and get settled into our new house, new jobs, new lives. So here it is June and I’m just waiting. And I’m not even waiting in a 2ww or anything, I’m just waiting, right now, indefinitely. (Well, until the fall, at least.)
And then of course, because I’m the age I am (a few weeks shy of 29) I have like, five, pregnant friends. (All straight.) And so many of my phone conversations have to do with pregnancy and showers and nurseries and ultrasounds and doctors appointments. And it started to feel lonely, here in lesbianville, where I had to wait until my insurance/finances/job/house/doctor/sperm bank/fertility clinic/monthly cycles all lined up and we were ready to try….when these friends could just *start* trying without much thought to any of the above. Sigh.
I had no IDEA how complicated AI is, or how many decisions you have to make. Known or unknown donor? ID release donor? Home insem? IUI? ICI? One attempt per month? Two? Three? Well anyway…long story short, I decided I needed a better outlet for my obsessive baby planning than mentally decorating the nursery or wandering the baby aisle at Target looking longingly at onesies. So, I take my first baby steps into the blogosphere and hope that it will make the waiting, and the journey, a little easier and a little less lonely. Stay tuned for more about me, S., and our adventures towards parenthood.